Wednesday, March 31, 2004

i forgot to tell what mags i have. the only one i get as a subscription is The Independent. i should subscribe to Magnet. i would like to subscribe to some lefty news mag. i miss reading Ms. on a regular basis. and my two guilty peasures would be O and Jane.

Hola, apologies for my absence as well. I don't even know where my time goes, I feel so unproductive. I guess when you play on three softball teams and go to the gym on off-softball days, you don't have much time for anything else.

My magazines: Texas Monthly, Real Simple, Runners' World, Catholic Digest. I at one point had a subscription to Gourmet Cooking but that ran out.

Random updates....

Last night a guy offered me $400 for my ticket to the 2004 baseball all star game (to be held in Houston in July), I just laughed him off.

After a long haitus (at least a decade), I started journaling again. It was about damn time!

A co-worker of mine introduced me to this GREAT noodle place, run by Tawainese. They hand make their own noodles and pot stickers. You can get more than enough food for $5/person. You have to get there early though, because if they run out they close up shop.

I also am having terrible allergies. Tired, runny nose, cough - no fun at all. I was in New Orleans last weekend for a wedding shower/ bachelorette party. Lots of good food and fun times - not a lot of sleep or patience for the patrons of Bourbon St.
my magazines: Aperture, Bust, Ready Made, Jane

Tuesday, March 30, 2004

sorry for my absence.
i've been attacked by this seasonal allergy/cold thing too. i'm so confused, i've never had allergies before, but it doesn't seem much like a cold either... very sinus-y, i'm SO glad there's rain in the forecast for days. i don't wanna go through what i went through yesterday. blech.

nothing much else goin on. just trying to keep up with myself...

Friday, March 26, 2004

Am I still at home with the flu? Yes. Yes I am.

So who's got the Most Cultural Distance Between Two Magazine Subscriptions? I'm going to cheat and include magazines that I do not subscribe to but which are delivered to this house: Bitch and Lucky.

Thursday, March 25, 2004

Ladies who drink from the can, only after wrapping a paper napkin around it - geographical or generational?

Everyone who says I should be a writer needs to read this first. On a side note, John Scalzi's February archives include thoughtful posts about gay marriage.

Shelly, I have been introduced to Photobucket. Shelly, may I introduce you to Photobucket. Photobucket, this is Shelly, an artist who would like to show us her work on this blog.

Americana = pink houses with picket fences, high school football, corner stores, chicken noodle soup, brunch, Shoney's/Big Boy/IHOP/WaffleHouse/Ryan's/Golden Coral/Barnhills, Bruce Springsteen, malts and milkshakes, Statue of Liberty, Vietnam Memorial, chick fried steak.

Mike, which BoSox documentary title are you voting for? Opening Day at MM Park = less than two weeks!

Tuesday, March 23, 2004

Words I would like to use more often: teetertotter, pollywog, discombobulate, lollygag, wombat.

Monday, March 22, 2004

It's true, the silver lining to a funeral can be spending time with a gathering of people who don't all get together very often.

I have spent my weekend being mashed flat by La Influenza, also broke enough so that I went to work Sat and Sun anyway. People kept telling me I looked nice or particularly good. I believe the Victorians went for the glassy-eyed, fever-flushed, slow-moving thing too. Here, let me cough on your strawberry-kiwi-ginger iced tea. Sexy, no? Being flat on the floor Sunday night actually added to the joy that was watching Barbra Streisand on In the Actor's Studio (I watched it twice!). I could say the woozy lightheaded feeling was from watching James Lipton interview Her. I should be a gay man already.

I have been on a little mission: there is a zine called KnitKnit. I would like to get my hands on issue 3, which seems pretty easy - except that I'm in HI, and for some reason, all the places that stock KnitKnit and do mail order either stick me with shipping rates in the $10 range and/or have only the letterpress edition. The zine in photocopy format is $9, in letterpress with handbinding, $20. I'm pretty damn sure that the $9 photocopy could be squeezed into a $3.85 Flat Rate USPS Priority Mail envelope, or wrapped in paper and sent Media Mail for about $2.00. If any of you happen to see KnitKnit #3 in photocopy format for sale, I'd gladly send you $15 and a gift if you'd send it to me.

Saturday, March 20, 2004

Other funny stuff. Was listening to local public radio, they played a remake of "Grits ain't grocery, eggs ain't poultry and Mona Lisa was a man...." Oh the DJ played a song by The Chords, but he prounced it "The Cards." I guess he knew his speaking limitations because he spelled it out after prouncing it. It's all good though, I can't say the word "asked." Even if I went to a speech therapist, it would still come out "axed." Then while I was filling up gas in a small town, the cashier called me "boo."

All the above are signs that remind me that I am home.

Weez: I don't drink much coffee. Every once in a while I get the envie (need) for a cafe au lait from Cafe du Monde or frap/cafe mocha. Fortunately for me I live down the street from a place that makes great Cuban cofee and sandwiches. While I was in Hong Kong, I was all about ni-cha, basically tea with steamed/condensed milk. If I order it at a restaurant I like it with honey and lemon. At home I drink it plain Jane. I have to think some more on the Americana one.

I, too, went to a funeral this weekend. My good friend's mom unexpectedly passed away. She went in for emergency by-pass surgery and never made it out, 60 years old. The other sad part is that my friend is not an only child but she lost her father when she was three. I came down to NOLA to be with her and take care of some business. All this prompted me to ask my parents how they wanted to be buried. When they told me that they didn't want to talk about it, I told them that they had better trust my judgement. Gosh can you imagine being parentless?

The burial itself was in small town LA. It just amazes me, some neighbor and his wife and brother (I think they were also third cousins but that was never made clear to me) cancelled their plans just so that they could arrange for food in the house for all the guests. I'm always touched by the kindness and generosity of people (although the same could be said for the ignorant, inconsiderate fucks that I curse at regularly).

I hadn't realized till I saw the news today that it's been a year since the Iraq conflict officially started. Wow, time sure does fly.

Ok, ok. Happy news. I talked to a good friend of mine's 4-year old niece yesterday afternoon. She calls me "Ms. Angie," which just cracks my shit up. She played the piano for me (Mary had a little lamb and two others songs I didn't know), told me about her newly aquired hoola hoop skills, about how my friend's dog pottied on the floor. She is sooooo stinkin' cute!

Friday, March 19, 2004

I just got back in town from my grandfather's funeral in St. Louis. He was 87. He had leukemia. He had a great, long life. I spent a few days up there with my family. I kept thinking, we're all together, my grandfather would love this. But it's nice now to be home.

For the weekend: Americana. Without using red, white & blue, eagles, or monuments (e.g. White House), what images do you think express America? Ex. mini-vans, Charlie's Angels.

Wednesday, March 17, 2004

My Thursday One:
What do you put in your coffee/tea/drink?

Giving up coffee was smart, 'cause what I was really giving up was milk and sugar (or honey, if available). Now I drink milk and honey with black tea, or strong black tea brewed with ginger slices and lashed with sweetened condensed milk. Green tea plain or with a little honey, which makes my mom look at me funny. I avoid coffeeshop chai and brew my own (involves black peppercorns among other things).

For what it's worth, I believe at least one of us has been experiencing technical difficulties re: the cd.

JT, Mike and Shelly: you have officially been called out -- TWICE. How's that for hazing on the blog?

I, too, have nothing to report. How lame ass is that?

Steph, tells us about SXSW.

Tuesday, March 16, 2004

Sorry about the dirth of messages from me. I don't have a lot to say.

Regarding the mix CD: Upma, Angie, Steph, Kainui = Good/JT, Mike, Shelly = Bad

Monday, March 15, 2004

It's not official yet, but y'all might know someone who will have patterns published in the second Stitch 'N Bitch book. I love the internet - I can sound completely calm and be bright red and nobody will know.

I was Suzie Homemaker this weekend.

Sat. I threw a going away party for a very good friend. I had a huge spread of stuff -- shrimp remoulade, artichoke balls, a huge ass veggie tray, three different kinds of buffalo wings (garlic, Cajun, terriyaki -- from a wing place), all kinds of olives and pickles and nuts and cheese, chocolate covered strawberries, Texas-shaped chips, and most importantly a Texas-shaped pineapple cake with cream cheese icing. Oh there this local store sells this great raspberry chipolte ranch dip that is out of this world! I had some of that, too. I was going to make these Gouda mustard bread thingies, but I was ordered out of the kitchen...."Would you please stop making food?!"

Three boys (one was the guest of honor) showed up to the party early, they were there a good 30 minutes before everyone else. You could just SEE their eyes all popping out, because they wanted to dive in. Finally I told them that they could have one of everything until everyone else showed up. After a few minutes of woofing food down, one of them looks at me and says, "Why don't you EAT SOMETHING?" I laughed and said, "Are you feeling all guilty?" And that assessment would have been correct.

Last night I made bread pudding and a sweet potato pie for my really good friend at the office (we are celebrating her b-day). And I made essentially Chinese jambalaya for the first time, it turned out rather well I don't mind saying!

Thursday, March 11, 2004

I'm not the only one here who reads Not Martha, but this week she has a link to Lance Arthur's weblog, where he has a guide to Man Grooming. It's like she has a theme this week, 'cause there's also a link to honey/yogurt/aspirin face mask (which I tried this morning - how it will deal with my rosacea will take a few weeks, but the soft-as-a-baby results were immediate). While I'm feeling infomercially, I will also pitch BlissLab's Poetic Waxing Kit. I don't know what's so poetic about it, but it does wonders on the hairy faced little monkeys known as me and my sisters.

Angie, Z has my cd.

HAS EVERYONE SENT THEIR SONGS TO ZACH????

Just got back from lunch. My friends took me to get a liquito (Mexican malt, it is good). I got the banana one.

I don't think I answered the Friday Five from last week.

1. ...your first grade teacher's name?
Mrs. Regan (not Nancy).

2. ...your favorite Saturday morning cartoon?
Smurfs, Scooby-Doo, Flintstones

3. ...the name of your very first best friend?
Elizabeth. We were best friends till about the third grade when I decided that we should branch out and make more friends.

4. ...your favorite breakfast cereal?
At the time, Captain Crunch, hands down.

5. ...your favorite thing to do after school?
I was always playing softball or basketball. At one time I was on two basketball teams and one softball team. It was ridiculous.

Wednesday, March 10, 2004

Stitch 'N' Bitch is on my Amazon wishlist - I do want to get it.
Upma and Angie - I'm sorry you won't be around for SXSW.
I just had to spend $460 on new tires. I'm still in a bit of shock.

Tuesday, March 09, 2004

Current reading pile:
After the Quake / Haruki Murakami
Ghost Light / Frank Rich
Sixty Nine / Ryu Murakami
Always Outnumbered, Always Outgunned / Walter Mosley
Six Easy Pieces / Walter Mosley
Hand Knitting Techniques / Threads Magazine
Knitter's Almanac / Elizabeth Zimmermann
Stitch n' Bitch / Debbie Stoller (Steph, I'm assuming you have or have read this book. If not, why on earth woman?!?)

On the wishlist:
In Gods We Trust: The Evolutionary Landscape of Religion / Scott Atran
Partly Cloudy Patriot / Sarah Vowell

Mike, do you want to be frozen with Ted when you die?

Monday, March 08, 2004

Steph: I won't be making it up there until ACLF in Sept, unless my friends and I can get our act together for a canoeing/tubing trip down the Guadalupe. Hopefully that will go down in May or early June.

I about lost it on someone from my softball team. First off, we get to the field and a team is playing on it. Then the "disorganizer" informs us that the alternate field was occupied by a bunch of Koreans. The first time the word came out of her mouth, my veins popped out of my skin. It was the way you hear people say stuff like that "nice black girl" or that "gay man that lives down the street." Immediately I asked her to refrain from using the word Korean in her communication. She continued, sparking the remaining ignorant asses to do the same, "but they all LOOKED Korean, " said the FAT MEXICAN who undoubtedly has much experience in identifying Asian groups. Finally I guess someone told her how annoyed I was so she apologizes. But then she says, "but someone told me that they looked Vietnamese. Are they Vietnamese? What are they then? Why don't you tell me?" Finally I said, "Does it really matter? The reality is that some team was on the field that we were to play on, the ethnicity of the group was not important." Maybe it's just the liberal in me, because she responded with, "I wouldn't have been offended if you said that a bunch of Mexicans were playing soccer on the field." And there folks, we have the differences between her and me.

Sunday, March 07, 2004

1. ...your first grade teacher's name?

The kindergarten and first grade classes were in the same room with a team of two teachers. My mother says one of them was Mrs. Tamanaha and neither one of us can remember the other one. Especially confusing for me because there were a couple of generations where the only acceptable job for a nice Japanese-American girl was schoolteacher. Whoever the second teacher was, she was a nice Japanese-American woman.

2. ...your favorite Saturday morning cartoon?

Every single one I got a chance to see illicitly, thank you hippie childhood. I don't remember much of any of them now. I know that smurfs are three apples high because my cousin W walked into the den one day with three apples stacked up in his hands, said "this is how high a smurf is" and gave one apple to K and another to me.

3. ...the name of your very first best friend?

I can't do the "best" selection because I grew up in a litter of children. Running around in that pack, there was no single best for me. I'm going to choose based on geographic proximity.

Ian and Eric, the boys closest to my age in the house next door. We collected rocks and pulled each other around in a red wagon, the same boys and red wagon in the recurring dream I had in early childhood (riding in the wagon with Ian and Eric, going down the side of a mountain. It was a full-sensory dream, in color and I still remember the way the mountain smelled. A very peacefully happy dream - we were all very calm, just bombing down the side of the mountain in the wagon). This was all pre-kindergarten, and they moved away when I was...5?

4. ...your favorite breakfast cereal?

Cereal for breakfast is still a bit of a novelty for me. If I managed to be persuasive enough in the health food store, I could get the granola with freeze-dried strawberries in it.

5. ...your favorite thing to do after school?

Sit in a tree. This lasted all the way through elementary school and probably up until the 8th grade. I stopped fitting in my favorite tree at about 12.

1. ...your first grade teacher's name?

Mrs. Wiesenhahn. i'm not sure if i spelled that right. but she was so nice.

2. ...your favorite Saturday morning cartoon?

i liked the smurfs and the snorks the best.

3. ...the name of your very first best friend?

nisha. i've known her since i was two and she was four. our parents went to med school together in india. she was my best friend for a good long while, but then one day when i was thirteen and she was fifteen and we were at a party at her house, she pulled me aside and said, "you have to stop telling people we're best friends." i think i was probably about to cry, i was defintely stunned. after seeing my reaction, she then said, "you can be my special friend." it was a pretty devestating moment.

4. ...your favorite breakfast cereal?

in the past, i have obsessed over froot loops, fruity pebbles, cheerios, apple cheerios, honey nut cheerios, and rasin bran. this winter i was on an oatmeal kick.

5. ...your favorite thing to do after school?

i ususally had one activity or another to go too (dance class, piano lessons, etc), not a lot of leisure time. hmmm. i wonder if that's why i'm a work a holic now?

steph: unfortunately i cannot come to austin this year. i probably can't come again until either 1. someone pays me to go. or 2. a film project of mine actually gets accepted. let's hope #2 happens in the next couple years.

one of the reasons sxsw is a great film fest because it's still real early in the year and there are A LOT of premeires. for this reason, i probably cannot make any recommendations to you... i looked at the list a little bit, but nothing is familiar to me. i would say anything that played at sundance and has been invited down to sxsw will probably be worth watching. and their feature documentaty line-up is usually top-notch. i wish i could see the music video blocks. other than that, keep your ears peeled... usually when you're standing in line you can hear about what people can't stop talking about.

i watch the apprentice, but had to turn it off early on thursday. what happened in the board room? who got fired?

i saw a clip on the food channel about king cakes. wow. i want one. do you guys like the traditional french ones better? or the decorated mardi gras new orleans ones better? do they taste different?

1. ...your first grade teacher's name?

Mrs. Wiesenhahn. i'm not sure if i spelled that right. but she was so nice.

2. ...your favorite Saturday morning cartoon?

i liked the smurfs and the snorks the best.

3. ...the name of your very first best friend?

nisha. i've known her since i was two and she was four. our parents went to med school together in india. she was my best friend for a good long while, but then one day when i was thirteen and she was fifteen and we were at a party at her house, she pulled me aside and said, "you have to stop telling people we're best friends." i think i was probably about to cry, i was defintely stunned. after seeing my reaction, she then said, "you can be my special friend." it was a pretty devestating moment.

4. ...your favorite breakfast cereal?

in the past, i have obsessed over froot loops, fruity pebbles, cheerios, apple cheerios, honey nut cheerios, and rasin bran. this winter i was on an oatmeal kick.

5. ...your favorite thing to do after school?

i ususally had one activity or another to go too (dance class, piano lessons, etc), not a lot of leisure time. hmmm. i wonder if that's why i'm a work a holic now?

steph: unfortunately i cannot come to austin this year. i probably can't come again until either 1. someone pays me to go. or 2. a film project of mine actually gets accepted. let's hope #2 happens in the next couple years.

one of the reasons sxsw is a great film fest because it's still real early in the year and there are A LOT of premeires. for this reason, i probably cannot make any recommendations to you... i looked at the list a little bit, but nothing is familiar to me. i would say anything that played at sundance and has been invited down to sxsw will probably be worth watching. and their feature documentaty line-up is usually top-notch. i wish i could see the music video blocks. other than that, keep your ears peeled... usually when you're standing in line you can hear about what people can't stop talking about.

i watch the apprentice, but had to turn it off early on thursday. what happened in the board room? who got fired?

i saw a clip on the food channel about king cakes. wow. i want one. do you guys like the traditional french ones better? or the decorated mardi gras new orleans ones better? do they taste different?

Friday, March 05, 2004

and the Friday Five...
What was...

1. ...your first grade teacher's name?

don't remember - 2nd grade was Miss Charbonnet though

2. ...your favorite Saturday morning cartoon?

This one with lost people and a dragon - maybe a dungeons & dragon take off...

3. ...the name of your very first best friend?

Lindsey - again in 2nd grade

4. ...your favorite breakfast cereal?

I don't like breakfast foods - maybe cheerio's? or frosten mini-wheats, I was an addict for the sugar

5. ...your favorite thing to do after school?

read - I'd invite a friend over and we'd just read together, my brother got endless enjoyment over how nerdy I was


random Friday thoughts...
Thank you. I've been having fun posting new images every couple of days. I plan on doing some more shooting this afternoon - if the light holds.
Ted's parents are in town - they're great, but it can be exhausting to be "on" for long periods of time - makes me wish for an island to retreat to - a hammock, and a large stack of books.

Do any of you guys watch The Apprentice?

SXSW - Upma, are you coming this year? Angie - are you making it down for any events? I want to maybe get a movie pass and try to hit a bunch of free daytime events. Upma - if you have any film suggestions - please let me know.

Thursday, March 04, 2004

Angie, if you like market-fresh meals, try Gramercy Tavern in NYC. Reportedly the chefs can be spotted early in the morning at the Union Square greenmarkets.

There is yogurt flavored candy in Japan. Not yogurt candy - yogurt *flavored* candy.

I love the photo from Navy Pier on Steph's photoblog.

A few nights ago my dad was in town with two of my uncles. I met them in Chinatown for dinner. When I got there, there was another man with them -- the owner of the Chinese market next door to the restaurant. He hand-picked what he wanted from the market, and had the restaurant cook up a meal. Isn't that so fucking beyond cool?

I took an aqua jog class Tues. night and plan on taking it again tonight. It was so much fun but man does that shit wear you out!

I finally got my taxes done. I had been doing it myself, prior to itemizing. But I was weary this year since I had so much more stuff (business expenses, house stuff, charitable donations). After dropping $170 (!!!!) on the processing fee and reviewing my forms, I am fully capable of preparing my own documents next year. At least I get a good refund this year.

Michael, I haven't heard the word cockamamie in at least three years!

how pretty. that might be a bug i actually like.

i was eating blueberry yogurt yesterday, and i got to thinking. isn't it just amazing how people from different cultures discover the same things, but use them in different ways?

Tuesday, March 02, 2004

My dreams are running roughshod over my waking life. Upma, was it a dream in which we were in a small apartment, spraying little blue firebugs with water so that they wouldn't ignite? You know, the little square bugs with flashing blue lights on the wings.

it angers me hugely that people in our government think it's okay to make laws about our personal lives. if i wanna marry a girl, who am i harming? if i wanna smoke dope or snort coke (neither of which i've ever done or plan to do, that's besides the point), i'm not hurting anyone other than myself, lay off you rat bastard, you know nothing about me. if i want an abortion, no one, and i mean no one has a right to stop me.
i have never felt so much shame in being an American. it saddens me. when the idiot stole the 2000 election, i knew our country was in for a bad streak. it saddens me to no end that the citizens are just letting one atrocity after another just happen. no one seems to care. no one seems to want to fight back. maybe it's not fair to say "no one." but it is fair to say people older than 30.
if he wants to score big points he first needs to get some brains; second, he needs to do something big about the climate change problems; and third, obviously he really needs to re-think his foriegn policies. none of which he'll do. he's ruined so much. i could ramble on. but i won't. i need to go to the gym. i'm currently working on a personal essay about presidential race... will post as soon as it's done.

Monday, March 01, 2004

The President didn't create a constitutional amendment last week. He can't do that. Amendments to the constitution require 2/3s of Congress to agree. That's why they almost never happen. I doubt very much that there will be a marriage amendment. Several reasons: one, the only reason Bush is even talking about it is to score political points with conservatives. (A group, I should point out, that he already had waiting outside to blow him before he called for a ban on same-sex marriage.) Two, both houses of Congress are not likely to agree on the amendment in whatever form it might make it to vote. And, three, whatever else we know about the constitution, we should all see that it tends to expand rights rather than limit them. I can't imagine that any Democrat would vote for the amendment, simply because, if the federal government writes anti-gay marriage law in the constitution, then we are all moments away from anti-abortion laws in the constitution. And from there, who knows... anarchy. The bad kind.

Personally, I think same-sex civil unions are an inevitablity. Of course, civil unions are a horseshit half-measure. Any two people should be allowed to marry. Fuck regressive christian dogma.

Three people walk into a circuit court and say they want a civil union. Current state and federal laws specify that a marriage is two people who are not currently married to anyone else (the gay marriage loophole is that states have started adding the "one male, one female" requirement only recently). Polygamous unions in the US generally use legal contracts between the participants - state/federal laws won't call it a marriage, but the participants can call it whatever they want to. What is a marriage besides a contract and words spoken?

12 year olds can't get married, but age of consent in HI is 15, meaning that at 15 you can be married with parental permission (or permission from a judge). Most state requirements for a marriage license specify "sufficient mental capacity for entering into a legal contract."

We're too young to remember it, so ask your parents or grandparents about the days when mixed-race marriage was called miscegenation, and the majority of voters wanted an amendment against mixed-race marriage.

When Rosie O'Donnell and her partner were married in San Francisco, she was interviewed by a reporter. She said that prior to her law suit/counter law suite against that publishing company (about that failed magazine), she wasn't a hard core supporter of same-sex marriages. However during the trial, her relationship with her partner was not considered a union so all communication between the two was not priveleged. Can you imagine?

Another thing about the same-sex marriages....Bush signed that constitutional ammendment last week I think. A few days later I read an op-ed about how Constitution authors like James Madison indicated that constitutional ammendments were to only be used for important legislation, not for presidents to muster up popular support during election years. Same-sex legistlation, the opinion said, should be left up to the states. Pretty ironic, given that Repubs typically are all about states' rights.

While I agree there needs to some limitations, like not allowing 12 year olds to marry, where do we draw the line? What happens if three people walk in and say they together want a civil union? (all good points brought up by a co-worker).

Thoughts from anyone?